| Location | Kings Lynn |
| Age | 7 months |
| Cause of Death | Rare Heart Condition |
| Date of Birth | 02/09/2007 |
| Date of Death | 01/05/2008 |
| Visitors | 5,621 since 03/08/2008 |
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On the 2nd of September 2007 our special little boy decided to make an appearance 6 weeks early
weighing 6lb2oz with loads of dark hair and big blue sparkly eyes. Our family was complete as we
already have two beautiful daughters.
Our problems all began when Harley was just 4 days old, Harley was diagnosed with a condition called
necrotizing entriculitis [NEC] Harley was then rushed to Norfolk and Norwich where things were touch
and go for Harley, but after an agonizing wait of 5hours myself and Harley's dad awaited news.
Harley came through surgery with flying colors but we knew it was going to be different with Harley
as he was left with a colostomy bag [stoma] Harley came home when he was 6 weeks old, the hardest 6
weeks of our lives or as we thought. Harley was backwards and forwards to the hospital with problems
relating his bowl problems,but hadn't been in hospital since December 2007. In Feb 2008 we received
a letter for Harley to go back to Norfolk and Norwich to have his stoma reversed, but it got
canciled as Harley had a thought infection, this was on the Friday [25th of April] we had taken
Harley to the hospital on the sat as he was refusing to eat and drink me being mum was worried that
he was losing to much weight. The nurses sent us home with Electrolade, but Harley also refused
that, so off we go again to the hospital on Sunday and they still sent us home. Monday Harley seemed
to be picking himself up and started eating a little [his fav wotsits] so things carried on as
normal, Tuesday Harley was really sleepy but didnt look into it to much as thought he was just
getting himself better. On Wednesday we got up and took Harley's big sis to school and then came
home to do the house work and,i layed Harley in his moses basket and me and Harley's other sis made
a start, i noticed that Harley didnt look quit right so i called his dad and said that i wasnt happy
and i wonted to get him checked out. So off i went again to the hospital, when we got there Harley
started being sick and going in and out of consciousness, things went from bad to worse and i called
for stew [Harley's dad] to come the doc thought that Harley had a form of meningitis, Harley's hart
was 245 bpm and it should of been 125 bpm the doc done all sorts of tests but didnt know wot was
going on.at around 12 am Harley's hart had stopped for the first time i can not explain how i felt
my whole body just went in to shock i couldn't breath i couldn't feel myself i was just numb.
Harley's hart started after about 2mins, the doctors and nurses were all rushing around trying to
get Harley ready to take to theatre to put him asleep as they had decided to transport him to
another hospital which they thought would be better for him,when we got to theatre Harley's hart
stopped again this time it was longer before he came round, but he did and then strangely enough
Harley's Sat's was as normal as could be and for about 10 Min's it stayed that was, but as quick as
we could smile or sigh Harley's heart stopped again this time something was telling me that he had
gone Harley's little body just couldnt take anymore. The doc pronounced Harley's death at 5.25 am
Thursday 1st May. Harley had a postmortem and Harley had an infection in the main chambers of his
heart. we always new Harley had a special heart he loved every one he met always smiling and
laughing such a happy little boy,who will always be sadly missed we will never be able to forget
that smile and those big blue sparkling eyes goodnight my little man we will all be together again
in a better world than this.NITE NITE.X
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HI little man just to let u know that im thinkin of u , miss ur big smile it aways light up the room were ever u was u was all way smilin well sleep well little man hope u got lots of friends with u love u lots and lots love antie jess uncile liam and kiddiesxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
missing u
hey smiler i really hope u keep your smile i miss you so much every day i think about u every day n night i lay under the stars n pick u out the biggest brigtest star in the sky i miss u so much i have your photo on top of my telly so instead of watchin the tely i look at u n think wot u r up to if u kissin all the angles i love u with all my heart and i hope soon we will meet again in a better life were i can make up for loss time love u baby
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Happy Birthday to you
Happy Birthday to you
Happy birthday dear Harley
Happy Birthday to you
Thinking of you & all your Family
love sent to you & your family xXx
The Pit of Grief
The day my child died, I fell into the pit of grief. My friends watched me struggle through daily life; waiting for the person I once was to arise from the pit, not realizing 'she' is gone forever.
The pit is full of darkness, heartache and despair; it paralyzes your thoughts, movements and ability to ration. The pit leaves you forever changed, unable to surface the person you once were.
Some of my pre-grief friends gather around the top of the pit, waiting for the old me to appear before their eyes, not understanding what’s taking me so long to emerge. After all, in their eyes, I’ve been in the pit for quite sometime. Yet in my eyes, it seems as if I fell in only yesterday.
Not all of my pre-grief friends are gathered around the top of the pit. Some are helping me with the climb out of the darkness. They climb side by side with me from time to time, but mostly they climb ahead of me, waiting patiently at each plateau. Even with these friends I sometimes wonder if they are also waiting for the pre-grief me to magically appear before their eyes.
Then there are the casual acquaintances, you know the ones who say 'Hi, how are you?' when they really don't care or really want to know. These are the people who sigh in relief, that is my child who died and not theirs. You know ... the 'better them, than me' attitude.
My post-grief friends are the ones who climb with me, side by side, inch by inch, out of the pit of grief. They have no way of comparing the pit climbed to the pre-grief person I once was. You see, they started at the bottom of the pit with me. They are able to reassure me when I need reassurance, rest when I need resting, and encourage me to move forward when I don't have the strength. They have no expectations, no memories and no recollection of how I 'should' be. They want me to get better, to smile more often and find joy in life, but they also accepted the person I’ve become. The 'person' who is emerging from the pit.
Unknown Author
Don't Mourn For Me
Mother, please don't mourn for me;
I'm still here, though you don't see.
I'm right by your side
each night and day
and within your heart I long to stay.
My body is gone but I'm always near
I'm everything you feel, see or hear.
My spirit is free,
but I'll never depart
as long as you keep me alive in your heart.
I'll never wander out of your sight--
I'm the brightest star
on a summer night.
I'll never be beyond your reach--
I'm the warm moist sand
when you're at the beach.
I'm the colorful leaves
when fall comes around,
And the pure white snow
that blankets the ground.
I'm the beautiful flowers
of which you're so fond--
The clear cool water in a quiet pond.
I'm the first bright blossom
you'll see in the spring;
The first warm raindrop
that April will bring.
I'm the first ray of light
when the sun starts to shine,
And you'll see
that the face in the moon is mine.
When you start thinking
there's no one to love you,
You can talk to me
through the Lord above you.
I'll whisper my answer
through the leaves on the trees,
And you'll feel my presence
in the soft summer breeeze.
I'm the hot salty tears
that flow when you weep
And the beautiful dreams
that come while you sleep.
I'm the smile you see on baby's face.
Just look for me, Mommy,
I'm everyplace !
(Author unknown)
LOVE ALWAYS ALISON XXXXXX
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Tributes For This Week
My computer is running very slow at the moment I will have to get it looked at so I will be back online A.S.A.P. I would like to take this opportunity to thank everyone for all you do for Christopher & I it is very much appreciated
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FOR MONDAY 31st August
Our thoughts are ever with you
Though you have passed away.
And those who loved you dearly
Are thinking of you today.
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FOR TUESDAY
Everyday in some small way
Memories of you come our way.
Though absent, you are always near
Still missed, loved and always dear.
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FOR WEDNESDAY
No farewell words were spoken,
No time to say goodbye,
You were gone before we knew it,
And only God can tell us why.
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FOR THURSDAY
We can't have old days back
When we were all together.
But secret tears and loving thoughts
Will be with us forever.
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FOR FRIDAY
Love Lives On
Those we love
Are never really lost to us –
We feel them
In so many special ways-
Through friends
They always cared about
And dreams they left behind,
In beauty that they added to our days...
In words of wisdom we still carry with us
And memories that never will be gone...
Those we love are never really lost to us -
For everywhere their special love lives on.
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FOR SATURDAY
If Roses Grow in Heaven
If roses grow in Heaven Lord
Please pick a bunch for me.
Place them in my loved ones arms
and tell them they're from me.
Tell them I love and miss them,
And when they turns to smile,
Place a kiss upon their cheeks
And hold them for a while.
Because remembering them is easy,
I do it everyday,
But there is an ache within my heart
That will never go away.
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FOR SUNDAY
Still With Us
Do not stand by my grave and weep
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow;
I am a diamond glint on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain;
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awake in the morning hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft star shine at night.
Do not stand by my grave and cry.
I am not there...I DID NOT DIE.
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Thoughts Today, Memories Forever
Angela Christopher’s Very Proud Mum
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hi baby
hello mummys lill man,mummy and daddy have been tring to find you a headstone but we can not find anything that we like, this is so hard.we promise that you will have one befor xmas i think we are going to have it pesonly desined,something special just like you.we all miss you harley so much we just wont you home,we should be thinking of whot to be getting you for your birthday not a headstone.sending you all my love mummy.xxxxxxxxxx
LOVE
IF LOVE COULD BRING YOU HOME AGAIN
YOU WOULD BE BY YOUR LOVED ONES SIDE
BECAUSE THERE HEARTS ARE BREAKING
FOR THE LOVE THEY HAVE INSIDE
THEY NEVER ASK FOR MUCH
ALL THEY WANT IS TO HOLD YOU
AND KEEP YOU BY THERE SIDE
BUT LIFE GOES ON WITHOUT YOU
IN OUR HEART YOU WILL STAY FOREVER
TILL THE DAY WE ARE TOGETHER
AND THEN THE TEARS WILL GO AWAY
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hello sexi, i hope u r ok i miss u so much i could'nt believe i was talkin to u for a whole hour but then u still made me cry lol,
i just miss u so much n i still think about u every day n miss u so much i just wish i could have one day to tell u how much i love u n miss u just wish so much was different,
so much has changed for me n for the good just wish u were here as u would be walkin n into every thing i sit n wonder some day's wot u would be doin or what u would be sayin all the silly lil things,
the guilt is still with me every day of missin out on ur life like not commin 2 c u wen u were here but nothin will ever take that away,
n the memories i have of u n the time u peed on me it wasnt funny at the time but now i sit n think n it makes me laff lol,
y do things change y was u taken away but now i no u not in any pain or discomfort u r at peace n in a happy place i cant wait till were all together happy again i love u so much harley jack u will never be forgotton as long as i live
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